Saturday, January 30, 2010

God's purpose in growth and learning...

My thoughts on gender variant children... As the mother of a gender variant child, I was a little disappointed in a recent television program that featured gender variant families/children. These children are not "freak shows" or objects to be "sensationalized" or "pathologized". The reality is that EVERYBODY who demonstrates any variation from the book meausure of "normal" can be clinically categorized as having a pathology. Who among us doesn't have a pathology??? Who really cares??? These are children and people... with an identitiy no different than yours and mine... THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE and WE NEED TO LISTEN TO THEM, not dismiss them because they are children... and certainly not dismiss them because they are different. The truth is... there is nothing wrong with these people. The problem comes from a surrounding LACK OF COMFORT WITH THEIR SELF-EXPRESSION, AND THE OBVIOUS VARIATION FROM TRADITION... the socially accepted CONCEPT OF "NORMAL". We need to nurture the spirit. We need to embrace identity and allow people to express themselves for WHO they are so they can grow up to be the beautiful, gifted, amazing INDIVIDUALS that God created them to be. When will we quit cramming people into boxes and realize the beauty of diversity??? When will we abandon judgement and accept all people for the unique eccentricities of their divine nature??? This is what Christ's example has taught me... He has taught me to love and accept my child... and, more importantly, to LISTEN TO and BELIEVE her.

Sometimes the trials that people experience do not have NEARLY AS MUCH TO DO WITH THEM, THAN THOSE WHO NEED TO LEARN AND GROW FROM THEM. I think everyone who is blessed to know or come in contact with a gender variant child needs to ask themselves.... WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO LEARN FROM THIS CHILD??? Only then, will God's pupose in all of this become known. Conversion of the heart doesn't come from arguing opposing viewpoints/positions... it comes from truth... from sharing testimony... and from the power of the spirit. This is true, not only of experiences in a church pew... but in all of life's experiences. I have a testimony of WHO my child is and I thank God every day for helping me to see the truth... for allowing me to SEE HER THROUGH HIS EYES. This is my testimony and I'm thankful for it.


  1. Angelique EricksonJanuary 31, 2010 at 5:32 AM

    Bless You,
    Being born gender gender variant,and forced to suppress my natural self identity,I am so pleased to see a parent,and other open and accepting parents,though a struggle),who do not try to force their child into conforming to a role they KNOW in the hearts and minds does not belong to them.You make your child's life a wonderous journey,and not a living hell.

  2. Thank you for this post. I am really trying to find my way as a Christian thru this maze of accepting my transgender child. You put into words perfectly what God has been showing me, but it is hard to throw off long held prejudices. I hope you will keep sharing.